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Birth Mother FAQS
Birth Mother

Why should I work with an agency?

An adoption agency will educate you on all of the options you have and what happens in the adoption process, as well as connecting you to your own attorney and any other services you may need. They can help you get pre-natal care, offer counseling, and walk you through the entire process. They will make sure you have the post-adoption contact agreement you want and help you find an adoptive family and establish a relationship with that family. An agency will help make sure your rights are protected and you are not taken advantage of.

Will this cost me anything?

No. There are NEVER any costs to the birth mother for making an adoption plan. If you need financial assistance, we have adoptive families who can help with your living expenses or other costs that are related to the pregnancy (as allowed by state law). We will help you apply for any public assistance or insurance benefits to which you are entitled during your pregnancy. The adoption judge will review what expenses are paid to you before the adoption is finalized so we must keep careful records. We will help you to comply with the adoption laws.

How do I know that adoption is right for me and my baby?

There are many reasons why women place their babies for adoption. Limited resources, uncertain future, unfortunate liaisons, immaturity, and physical or psychological reasons are just to name a few. A woman doesn't have to justify her reasons, but she must fully explore and understand the outcomes. Adoption is not foster care or babysitting, it's a permanent, legal transference of parental rights and responsibilities.

It is important that a birthmother carefully explores the facts about adoption so that she can make a fully informed decision that is best for her and her baby. During this decision-making process, a birthmother must never feel coerced or pressured in any way.

What are the types of adoption I can choose from?

You have the option of choosing an open adoption, a semi-open adoption, or a closed adoption. In a closed adoption, you and the adoptive parents remain anonymous for the entire process. With an open adoption or semi-open adoption, you can choose the adoptive family and decide on the amount of contact during and after the adoption.

I was doing some drugs and/or drinking before I knew I was pregnant; will anyone still want to adopt my baby?

If you find yourself pregnant, it is wise to immediately stop all substance usage. Families will be interested in adopting your child if you have used substances, however, you must be completely honest about the type, amount, and duration of usage. Families are encouraged to take this information to their pediatrician. Often, it takes time to find the right family for your baby, but there are families out there eager to adopt your baby.

Do I get to choose the family for my baby?

Yes, absolutely! Your agency will help you find family profiles to look at that fit your desires (i.e. a Catholic family, a single-parent family, an only-child family, or any other type of family you wish to consider). After you have selected a few families you would like to meet, your agency will help you set up an informal meeting with potential adoptive families so you can get to know them better before you make a decision.

Are social workers going to pressure me to place my baby, or to choose a specific family?

NO. Never. If you are working with an agency and you feel like they are pressuring you, you should stop working with them. Adoption agencies are there for you to educate and support you as you make your own decisions. You have the right to choose whatever family you wish, and to change your mind about any aspect of your adoption plan at any time before the adoption becomes official. If you simply want to learn about adoption options, an adoption agency should welcome your questions and respect your choices, no matter whether you choose to parent your child or place the baby in an adoptive home.

After I choose a family, is the adoption official?

No. Before the birth of your child, your adoption plan is just that- a plan. You will not sign any documents regarding the adoptive placement of your child until after the birth. You can alter the plan or change your mind at any time until you sign the consent documents.

How can I be sure my baby will be safe and cared for?

Before families are approved to adopt, they go through a very extensive and thorough process with an adoption agency to make sure they are a good family and can parent a child or children. Before you see their profiles, they have gone through months of interviews with social workers, criminal and child abuse background checks, a home study process, and much more in order to ensure they are good people who a baby would be safe and happy with.

After an adoptive placement, social workers are required to check in on the family and do what are called post placement reports. This ensures that the baby is well taken care of and the family is adjusting well.

How soon does my baby go to the adoptive parents I choose?

Typically, the adoptive parents will take the baby home from the hospital. This usually happens within a week, depending on the health care needs of the child.

Do I get to see my baby in the hospital?

Yes! You make your own hospital and birthing plan, just like any other mother. Some women choose to not see their baby after birth, but many spend time with their child after birth. It is all up to you. You can spend as much or as little time with your child in the hospital as you wish. You can invite the adoptive parents you have chosen to the hospital if you'd like to. Some women have chosen to have one or both of the adoptive parents present for the birth, or have invited them in the next day. Some choose to have their social worker physically hand over the child, and many do that themselves. What happens at the hospital is up to you. Your social worker will be there to support you during and after the birth, and will make sure your wishes are followed.

What if I am in labor and haven't made an adoption plan yet? Can I still choose adoption?

Yes, you can still choose adoption. We do receive calls and messages from birthmothers who are in labor or who have already had their baby and are in the hospital. If you've decided to make an adoption plan for your baby, you can contact us anytime - we are here for you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Once we receive your call, we can have an adoptive family available for your baby within hours. The adoptive parents will take the baby home with them from the hospital, avoiding any need for foster care.

Is adoption permanent?

Yes. Once the child is born and the adoption process is complete, the adoptive parents are the forever family of the child.

What if I change my mind?

In Florida, once you have signed your consent to the adoption you cannot change your mind.

What if I don't know who the birth father is?

That's OK. If the birth father is unknown, then you will be making all adoption decisions yourself. You will need to provide as much information as possible so the agency can complete a diligent search for him.

I know who the father is. Can I hide my pregnancy and the adoption plan from him?

Unfortunately, no. Birth fathers do have certain legal rights when it comes to your adoption plan. It is important to speak with your agency about who he is and what actions he has taken after he learned of the pregnancy. If he has taken certain actions, he may need to consent to the adoption. If he has not supported you at all, you probably will not need his consent. It is very important to speak with your agency about the father.

How do I deal with people saying negative things about my adoption choice?

The post-placement period of adoption is sometimes the most difficult for birthmothers. You've experienced the birthing process, you've made a huge emotional life-changing decision, and you are leaving the hospital empty handed. Sometimes, people are not very sensitive, nor are they aware of all the circumstances of a situation and they say inappropriate things. Your adoption counselor can help you explore this before and after the birth during counseling.

Why choose A Forever Bond, Inc.?

Our dedicated, caring staff is available for you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We have helped birthmothers through the adoption process, so we really do understand what you are going through. We truly care about you and want to help you make the decision that is best for you and your baby. From your first email or phone call to the birth of your baby and beyond, we will be here to provide you with friendly, non-judgmental guidance and compassionate support.

What's the next step?

If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption, we would love to talk with you to answer your questions and help you make your decision. We understand that taking the first step to contact us can be difficult, so we encourage you to reach out to us however you are most comfortable. Call us anytime at 321-613-5996, text us at 321-626-1630, or email us at adopt@aforeverbond.com. We are always available!

 

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